At one point or the other in your life you might have looked at someone and went “damn, look at those legs “OR “Lord knows what I can do with those lips”
Sometime, you might have hid behind a curtain “window-shopped” on a neighbor or a co-worker … then you allow your thoughts go wild and you start imagining what it would feel like to have that person hold you in their arms, kiss and caress you. Then after a while, if this person is still pressing the “right buttons”, your mind will graduate from just wanting to make out with this person to wanting a hot steamy sex with this person.
All that I have said so far can simply be put as having a crush on someone. And since it goes on in the mind where only the owner has access to, it seems pretty harmless, cool and of course, safe. But as long as the other person has no idea of your feelings for them or probably couldn’t care less about you and your wild thoughts, then it is just a waste of your love, time and energy. What! How? Hold that thought.
Everything we see around us today was first conceived or created in the mind before they became a reality. The good thing about the mind-creation is that the mind makes available everything needed in order to create the perfect picture.
If you imagine yourself making out with your crush on the island, then your mind will provide you with the picture of the most beautiful Island in the world. Or if you imagine yourself in a hot sex with your crush on a king-size bed, your mind will provide you with a king-size bed made of gold, lol.
The mind sure knows how to “make it pop” but does life know how to do that too? The mind knows how to give you the perfect image but only ‘life’ has the power to give us the real thing. And it just might make your head spin when you discover that the real thing is the opposite of the picture your mind gave you.
For instance, you might just discover that the lips you are dreaming of how you are going to kiss it so hard until it bleeds actually reeks of Carbide, lol.
Or, that the person you have a crush on because you thought they were cool, confident and intelligent was actually acting out a law from the book “48 Laws of Power”. . Because that is all that the whole personality ethic thingy entails—living in a mask. Then you get closer or get to know them better and you discover that they are as dumb AF. That is why I will encourage you to opt for the character ethic because that is the true definition of personal growth that brings you the happiness that you deserve.
Oftentimes, I hear people say such things as “the heart want what it wants” aint that the truth? It is true. We all have the rights to fantasize but it is also true that the God who solely has the power to grant us our heart desires also has a great sense of humor. So the person you are crushing on might actually be the opposite to who God have made for you.
The bad side about crushing on someone is that it can make you prey-able to them. There is a possibility that the person you are crushing on does not care about you, but when they discover that you already have the’ hots’ for them, they make the move ; they know that you have become vulnerable to their charms so they take advantage of your vulnerability.
The way I see it is that we all came into this world with a full jar of love. Every time we fall in love, we invest from our jar of love a portion that is equivalent to the amount of love we have for the person.
If the relationship ends, the love we have invested does not return to our jar of love. When we move on to a new relationship, we invest yet another portion of love from our jar of love and if we are not careful, that will be how we will carry on until there is no more love left. Then we are left with the famous question “how do I or why should do I fall in love again?”
The point of this article is to implore you to be a little prudent with your heart and with your love. Only invest your heart when you are sure that it is or will be reciprocated, not before.
Even they Holy Bible encourages us to guard our heart with all diligence because out of it comes the issues of life.
PS; I know that some of the opinions in this article are a little heterodoxy. So feel free to let us know your thoughts as regards the topic in the comments section below.