Paradigm, what the heck does that mean? It is the different factors that comprehensively determine our life’s perspective or the way we see the world around us.
As our personality differs, so does our paradigms. What defines a school of thought is their common paradigm—whether dysfunctional or not. But I can assure you that what brings the entire human race together is the paradigm that is based on principle; I call it the character ethic based paradigm.
There are two factors that influences a person’s paradigm, they are:
- The personality ethic.
- The character ethic.
The personality ethic aspect of a person’s paradigm is based upon rules that govern the social arena. It is the stated and the unstated terminologies on techniques that strengthen the process of human relation. Some of those terminologies are: “be the first to say hello”, “gratitude is the new attitude” etc.
Although the personality ethic has an almost magical effect in the social arena, but, in my opinion I think it is superficial and manipulative because it is based on the ‘power game’; a way of getting into people’s hearts and good graces without actually earning it.
The demerits of the personality ethic are that the reward it brings does not endure. Come to think of it, for how long can a person pretend to be whom or what they are not? Not for so long in my opinion.
Playing the personality ethic game is like acting and when you stay for so long stage—being someone else—it wears you out and when you are worn out, you become erratic and then show yourself.
The most crucial rule of effective living is that you are yourself but if “yourself” are not doing it for your brand; make the right changes to your character, not your personality. And that brings us to the character ethic.
The character ethic teaches that there are defined principles of effective living. It does not encourage the route to ‘quick-fix’ success neither does it teach the aspirin for lasting happiness. Rather it teaches that happiness and success is achieved when one consolidate the right principles with their lifestyle.
The components of the character ethic in relation to a happy living are: discipline, integrity, humility, and respect for authority, peaceful…. Etc.
The truth is; both the personality ethic and the character ethic, working coherently, produce the best result. For instance, a positive attitude—personality ethic– should be consolidated with humility—character ethic. In other words, your quest for people’s recognition, love and acceptance should consolidate with your respect for their right to choose whether to love, recognize and accept you.
Your paradigms are the rules that govern your day-to-day activity. Whether you believe it or not there are factors that are controlling your lifestyle. If you are oblivious of these factors then it means that you didn’t set them yourself. They were imposed upon you by the world around you, hence, the question: from where is your paradigm?
Both the personality ethic and character ethic—paradigm– can be influenced. Some of the things that can influence your paradigm are: life experiences, culture and role model.
These influences can make you see the world either from a positive or a negative lens. For instance, a person who has been in and out of bad relationship is likely to have a negative paradigm about one of the most rewarding activity in life—falling in love.
The thing is that these influences are though very powerful but they are controllable. You have the power to determine the kind of effect they will have on you—whether positive or negative. You also have the power to circumscribe the power of these influences over your life.
Do you know that the way you see the world determines how you will relate to it and how you relate with the world will determine what you get from the world? Be possitve.